By Ashley Bailey
, Tuesday, August 01, 2006
He drops to a knee, opens the box and pops the question!
It is a beautiful moment. You hug him and tell him "yes, yes, of course yes!" You are embracing and laughing and he places the ring on your finger. Tears of joy stream from your eyes, so you can’t really tell that!
You hate it.
While trying to be sweet he selected a diamond or a setting (or both) that is opposite your taste in jewelry.
You have tried to get around it but you are disappointed.
Do you tell him? Do you try and let it "grow" on you?
Do you just wear it forever and try looking at the other hand?
Are you materialistic and shallow?
It’s perfectly understandable that you feel awkward approaching the person you care most about to tell him you’re not pleased with his chosen token. However, if you're planning on spending the rest of your lives together, anything this important to you should be open to discussion.
If you choose to address it in a gentle manner, it’s likely that any hurt he may initially feel will be quickly replaced by a desire to find what you hoped for, followed by healthy satisfaction for both of you when he succeeds.
If that is not his reaction, at least you will know that it was of ultimate importance to him that you wear the piece he chose, for whatever reason.
Either way it’s better that no secrets are kept.
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